There’s a persistent misconception that hiring a tutor is a sign that parents have somehow failed their children. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, employing a tutor can be one of the best things a parent can do for their child, as it shows a commitment to supporting their learning and well-being.
My wonderful business partner, Odette Wohlman, knows this struggle all too well. There was a time when she was spending more than a thousand pounds a month on tutors for her four children. They were struggling to keep up in school, which took a toll on their self-esteem and, consequently, their behaviour. This negative cycle made the whole family feel trapped. “I was so desperate to get it right,” she recalls, feeling vulnerable and overwhelmed. But like many parents, she did what she could to help her children.
It’s no secret that navigating the school system can be challenging. Understanding school reports, interpreting teacher feedback, and figuring out what’s best for your child can feel like navigating a maze. But parents know their children better than anyone, and their determination to do the right thing often leads them to seek extra help, such as a tutor.
However, finding the right tutor isn’t always straightforward. The process can be stressful, even for those of us with experience in education. The stakes are high—if you choose the wrong tutor, it could negatively impact your child’s academic results and confidence. A great tutor can inspire and enable a child, while a less-than-great tutor can be disappointing and disheartening.
I often compare choosing a tutor to shoe shopping. As parents, we understand the importance of well-fitted shoes for our children’s growing feet. We wouldn’t skimp on quality or ignore the specific needs of their feet at different stages. Similarly, selecting a tutor requires a nuanced understanding of your child’s unique profile as a learner. Just as a good pair of shoes supports and protects, a good tutor guides and nurtures.
Attitudes towards tutoring can vary widely across different cultures and families. For some, hiring a tutor is a badge of honour; for others, it’s a necessary step to ensure their child doesn’t fall too far behind. What we do know is that most parents would pay for tutoring if they could afford it, recognising the value it brings.
So, if you’re considering hiring a tutor, don’t see it as a failure—see it as an opportunity to support your child in the best way possible. And remember, you’re not alone in this journey. With the right guidance, you can make informed decisions that will have a positive impact on your child’s future.
If you’re looking for more insights on how to be the best tutor—or how to choose the right one for your child—check out my book, Love Tutoring: How to Be the Tutor Your Student Needs. It’s packed with practical advice and real-life stories to help you navigate the world of tutoring with confidence. Purchase your copy here.